weird guy
posted by Justyna Kurek in Netherlands forum
Honestly I'm quite shocked and the first thing that pops in my mind is "Leave the guy!".
No I do not think it's fair to ask you for that and not give you any share of the posesions. After all, are you in a relationship or just housemates.
The idea about not getting married is I guess quite common. My boyfriend thinks the same way, but luckily so do I. We don't see how getting married would be needed for two of us. But the moment I'm gonna get fulltime job with reasonable salary, we're gonna open a bank account together. Now as I have only some small bijbanen would be quite difficult for me to pay rent, so he doen't expect that from me. I contribute with paying for our food, taking care for the house and sharing some bills. It's what we call a relationship: helping eachother, supporting eachother, trust and commitment. Sharing the financial resposibilities is a part of a healthy relationship I think. I seems like if he doesn't EVER want to share it with you, he doesn't want to take you fully serious and take the responsibility for being IN A RELATION. Can he really imagine living together for 30 years and not sharing stuff with you (unless you pay your half at once)?
I'd say it's not Dutch. It's weird. It's a single guy's attitude.Unregistered partnership never gives you same rights as marraige. You have some rights, but not a full packet.